appreciated. There is no law that says you have to tip and there is no law that says you can tip more than advised...it is completely up to you.
One of the unfortunate things is many service people have come to believe that a tip is owed them, not a reward if they do something good. This attitude is fostered even more by the fact that gratuities are almost always automatically added to the bill of the hall, the hotel and sometimes even the limousine company. It truly defeats the purpose of a tip if someone gets it no matter what kind of service they give you. When a tip is no longer voluntary, but rather mandatory, it becomes a fee, not a gratuity.
Yes, I understand the reason for adding it in is to make it more convenient for you, but that is complete baloney. It is done because the service industry doesn't pay well enough and train well enough so they make you pay for this short fall.
All right, time to get off the soap box. So what are the guidelines? Here is a list:
❧ A wedding planner. Again, this would depend on his or her level of service and typically only applies to day of services, not the entire contract. A flat amount of $50 or $75 should be generous.
❧ Coat room attendants. It is customary to tip fifty cents per guest, but if you have a lot of guests arrange for a flat fee with them prior to the event.
❧ Limousine drivers. Read your contract...if a gratuity is already built in, anything above that should be for extra services given. Typically 15% is appropriate.
❧ Florists. 15% for extra special services...they are already getting paid to do the job
❧ Photographers, bakers, musicians...same as florists.
❧ Civil ceremony officials. Often a “suggested” donation is listed. Otherwise, between $50 and $75 is considered proper.
❧ Clergymen. Usually at least $100. This is given to the best man and he will then give it to the officiant following the ceremony.
❧ Organists and musician. Often this is included in the fee for the church...when it is not usually $50 is appropriate unless they are close friends of the family and than $75Duties and responsibilities of an event
the tips for the coat room attendant, hostess or captain, DJ or musicians, etc. You should probably take care of your individual waiter or waitress yourself.
Don't forget to include tips in your wedding budget! A good wedding planner will definitely make sure you have the tips covered, as well as those for earlier services such as hair, makeup, nails, seamstress, etc. $10 here and $50 there can add up very quickly if you haven't planned for it.
And remember, tips are for extraordinary service...just ordinary service is how service people get their regular paycheck.